Love Is Blind, the dating show where people lived in bubbles, attempted connection in unprecedented ways, drank too much and found fame through social media, predicted the last 18 months. Now they’re back with a reunion special. There are no great takeaways, no lessons learned or memeable moments (remember when that lady gave her dog wine, wasn’t that something?). There is one apology gift. 

On the Love Is Blind: After the Alter reunion miniseries, Jessica wanted to make amends (I know all of this is staged and producers needed a narrative and that’s OK, this is not a judgement on the reality of reality television) to still married couple Amber and Barnett. Her thoughtful gift was a set of wine glasses. The couple refused the gift. 

A set of wine glasses is a thoughtful gift if wine glasses are on a registry or you have enjoyed wine at the gift receivers house and you know their current wine glass situation. If the wine glasses are not requested and you have not been to the receivers house, they’re a burdensome box to try to get home. In this specific situation, it’s weird, but that’s more of a producer thinking they’re a good gift.

If you are not on a reality show, the only decent apology gifts should be consumable. If you are sure the person or people you are giving a gift to do not like you, give them food and/or drink that they might enjoy.

For adults that don’t like you and drink alcohol, a nice bottle of wine is perfect. It doesn’t last like a good bottle of hard liquor and will most likely be consumed quickly. It’s also incredibly easy to regift. 

For adults that don’t like you and don’t drink alcohol, a bag of nice coffee beans is great. Similar to wine, it’ll be consumed quickly and it’s easy to regift. 

For adults that don’t like you and don’t drink alcohol or caffeine, a decent box of chocolates work. 

For adults that don’t like you and don’t drink alcohol or caffeine and don’t eat sugar, a six pack of the fanciest bubbly water you can find will do the trick. 

Typical food gifts, like fruit baskets, are bad. They’re huge, overpriced and literally one bad apple can ruin the entire basket. Stuff like Shari’s Berries is even worse. Don’t buy any of these for anyone you’re trying to win over. 

For kids that don’t like you, why does this kid hate you? Just give them a very small, simple Lego set. Legos are gender neutral and it’s up to the user to make it something good. Don’t buy kids booze or caffeine or sugar or anything food related. You don’t want to be the reason the kid found out they’re allergic to anything. 

The reasoning behind off of this is quite simple. If I don’t like you, I do not want to be reminded of you. (The Legos for kids thing works because the parents and kids will not remember who got what Legos because Legos all blend together unless they’re the really expensive Star Wars or Harry Potter Legos. Don’t buy those.)

If I don’t like you and you give me something with a relatively short shelf life, let’s say chocolates, I will either consume those chocolates and possibly like you more or forget about those chocolates, throw them away and forget about the gift. The point of an apology gift is to apologize, not linger on a shelf.

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